Some spouses in marriages expect the other spouse to be just like him/her, to like all the same activities, to have the same energy level, to act the same, etc. This type of person likes to be in control and to not allow the other spouse much freedom to be him/herself. We can only imagine the struggles this one sided relationship would have.
Marriage, like a variety of foods at a picnic, brings two different, individuals together with varied backgrounds, interests, temperaments, strengths, and weaknesses. These unique qualities can damage or strengthen the couple depending on whether the husband or wife are determined to live selfishly, or if they are willing to appreciate and embrace the differences.Often times,where one person is weak,the other is strong,and vise-versa,which can be a good thing. It is also good to do things that are the same together, and to have separate interests that make one interesting, as long as they don't hurt the other person.
If we acted the same as our spouse all the time,then one spouse would be unnecessary. ! Let's seek to understand our differences, grow, learn from one another,and let each other be who God created them to be. Sometimes we just have to have a sense of humor,breathe, and say....that's Fred....or thats's my Sally ! Now go have a picnic...and don't bring boring food.....spice it up lovers !!!
